‘A lucrative career or a plum job for my child’ – If someone has the capability to sneak into a parent’s mind, they are sure to hit upon this thought.
Building a career out of passion is a boon and living a life out of it is a blessing.
And what does it take to be a parent who does the fishing expedition to carve out a ‘settled’ future for our children? Can we really influence the smart generation? Are we also the mentors who would assist them in discovering their passions?
Here are a few pointers.
Being with them
This might sound funny! Surprisingly this is one fact that generally parents tend to assume as ‘We’ve been doing so far’. True to a great extent! But the stress is in ‘actually participating’ in the child’s growth. It means giving them the psychological, moral and emotional support at any point in their life time, irrespective of what we, as a parent, are undergoing.
As a child, haven’t we felt great if someone stood by us, unconditionally? If we could relive or recapture those moments, we would know exactly what we need to reciprocate to our children.
So what does it have to do with their best career options or passion? It builds the must have trust that supersedes every other character trait in building a lasting relationship, which is no different for a parent-child bond.
Unless our children invest adequate trust in us, hand-holding their career journey could only be a distant dream.
Catch the early indicators
Remember those enthralling days, as young parent, when our children first made their ‘Art’ work? Or babbling of the first song? Or dancing rhythmically to the tunes they hear? And did they repeat and relate to it in every opportunity? Did we not find them enjoying and indulging in the same act frequently?
These are the curtain raisers to watch out for that start as early as they were 3 years old. Though very much in their formative years, these sparks gradually blossom into their passion. The most important parental duty is to appreciate and help them nurture it.
passion to passions
Linda was equally fascinated and confused when her 11 year old daughter, Janet, picked up her piano lessons in no time, much ahead of her age group, but gave up her regular habit of drawing. A fortnight’s time later, Linda found herself accompanying Janet to her week end Tennis classes too.
This is no surprise. And we need to realize/need to remind ourselves that children can be multipassionates. And it is perfectly normal if they renounce some passion in their growing age. As they grow, the external influences – friends, social media, peer group etc, all, do play a major role in the making of ‘The Individual’.
Diverse interests give them the winning edge in due course of time as the competition is fiercely on the rise and to be sustainable in any field that determines their actual victory.
The visible evidence is the increasing demand for niche skills in the job industry. And throw off from mind that kids need to zero-in on their passions. Let’s enjoy them being what they are. It’s worth it and pays too.
Expose & Explore
‘Social Media’ – Alone, this doesn’t contribute to a child’s exposure quotient, particularly in determining their career choices. It’s all the more to do with meeting people with various education backgrounds, fields of specializations, experts who have honed marketable skills, to mention a few.
An increased parental responsibility now days are to maintain a good network of people who can actually contribute to a child’s growth. It may be just via a whatsapp group or signing up for an online session, which we can attend at leisure with our children.
Aditi was an average college student, until she took up the task of publishing her fashion tips on her facebook page. Today she runs her own consultancy even before she has embarked on a full time job.
It’s a world of opportunities. Exposing them to multitude of opportunities and allowing them to explore are the winning mantra.
Be an example
Shreyas was just 7, when he first attempted his little fingers on the Tabla, much like his father. The age old fashion of carrying the family art or business is still a viable option for parents who are willing to put their wards on the road to career success.
‘Being an example’ is the straightest forward and assured ways of helping our children discover their passion. They tend to imitate us very much in their growing years, which eventually may end up their passion and then a career.
But beware! Let’s refrain from persuading them to pursue our passion! We may miserably fail! The reality is - An artist’s son can be an IT Professional!!
Reach out to mentors
“I’m a full time Mom, friend, philosopher, guide...! I don’t desire a mentor for my girl”- If any of us have this stubborn view, be assured that there is every possibility that we miss out identifying an innate talent in our child.
Also many a times we can find our children struggling to juggle or narrow down their passion/passions to make it a career. Mentors could be a just well known neighbor, our extended family member, or a professional mentor. It only matters how good they do the ‘sculpting’.
As parents, we need to just disown wearing multiple hats atleast to embrace the changing trends.
Passion to Profession
Only a few have the clear vision of laying the road from passion to profession. Parental guidance will be required if we find our children lacking a clear strategy in converting the passion to profession.
As long as an act remains a passion, the focus is only on self satisfaction and the privilege of expressing oneself. To make a career out of passion, parents need to be alert if our children pose the capability of pursuing it out of all odds, sustaining it successfully, building their own support system and above all making it lucrative.
While the commonality between profession and passion is the stream chosen, the main distinguishing factor is ‘Financial Returns’. And we parents have to make sure our children understand the fundamental reality of striking a good balance between satisfying their hearts and satisfying their needs.
This is indeed a great discovery and many of them may even land up doing something totally different from what they have been aspiring for or pursuing so far.
At the end of the day, it’s whether we ‘earn to live’ or ‘yearn to live’ that matters.
IT’S all about $
While we might have done a great job in assisting our children finding a passion for their career, it is equally important to give them a clear idea of how financially sound we are to support their dreams.
Globally many countries have a working population who do so to meet out their educational needs. Though this is yet to gain full momentum in India, the greatest responsibility of a parent would be to keep the children understand their financial situation in a positive way.
And as parents we need to be confident that expressing our limitations is in no way shunning away from the responsibilities. Rather it is the right way of handling our grown up children.
Encouraging them to have an education that is beyond our financial capacity is the most damaging harm that a parent can cause to themselves. Unless we are sure of our support system, giving them hope would only result in a futile attempt. And remember, there is no shame or blame game involved.